In the first three posts of this series, I talked about finding out what you are naturally good at, how to develop the skill that you are good at and how to start doing that at a professional level. In a manner, we discussed what you want to do and how to do it.
But, if you ask any super-achiever, the question that is most important for them is – Why? The why behind everything keeps the person going forever. If one is clear about ‘why’, it becomes easier to rebound from the falls.
Even though, the ‘why’ is most important and should be the starting point of our lives, in practical life it doesn’t work like that. We keep running around, asking what is to be done. We don’t stop or take a pause to ask, why do we need to do it?
To be fair, it is not very easy to point out at the outset, why do we exist or the golden question – what is our purpose in this life?
In my experience, if you are doing something that comes naturally well to you, it becomes a bit easier to explore the ‘why’ of your life. That’s why the first three posts were about figuring out what you are good at and how to do that for a living, gradually.
When you are doing that, you are at peace with yourself and in harmony with nature. The internal and external conflicts are minimized. And when the conflicts are minimized or eliminated, you enter the Zen zone. If you are ask me, one of the objectives of my life is to be in the Zen zone as much as possible.
When you are in the peaceful zone, it becomes easy to zero on to the ‘why’ of your life. You may realize that what you are doing for a living or money is only a means to fulfill the ‘why’. Bill Gates wrote and sold software through Microsoft for most of his life but the ‘why’ of his life turned out to be philanthropy. Same with Azim Premji of Wipro, Warren Buffet of Berkshire Hathway and Shiv Nadar of HCL Group. The why of Steve Jobs was to create exceptionally designed products to suit the needs of his customers.
So, whatever you may be doing at present, take a pause and ask why? It is perfectly fine to keep doing what you are doing but it makes a big difference to your performance if you understand – why?
Understanding this helps you cope with all difficulties in life. In the book, The Alchemist, the hero is beaten black and blue while he is pursuing his destiny. But he rises because he understands that his ‘why’ is not yet fulfilled. In the movie Matrix, Agent Smith gave a great monologue on purpose – it’s the purpose that drives us!
What you do well is your PASSION and why do it is your PURPOSE. Figuring out both is the biggest task staring you in the face today.
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A seeker and explorer in the quest for lasting happiness, health and well-being. An MBA from XLRI Jamshedpur and a Mechanical Engineer from IIT Delhi. Has been a senior banker with large global banks like Goldman Sachs, Deutsche Bank and ANZ Bank. Working in these demanding global institutions with a gruelling schedule and plenty of business travel. Was fortunate to realise the importance of health and wellbeing early on. Learnt and practiced many wellbeing tools and techniques to focus on his own well-being while balancing the demands of a high-profile career and a lovely family.