First of all, let me clarify. I am not confident all the time. Sometimes I am and sometimes I am not. So, what makes me confident at certain instances?
I gave a talk in front of 50 odd managers of a Multi-national company based on my book. The topic was personal management for better productivity at work. My feet were shaking and voice trembling.
Two months later, I delivered the same talk in front if 100 managers and it was flawless. I stood straight, my feet were firmly planted, my voice was confident and I actually managed to smile and make the audience laugh as well. What changed? Only difference was PREPARATION.
Before the second talk, I prepared in every possible manner. I wrote most of my talk, spoke it out in front of mirror and on the sea-shore. I even spoke it many times in my mind. I went through youtube videos on public speaking, voice coaching, body-language, confident speaking and so on. It showed me what the stalwarts in public speaking were upto.
And I have a long way to go. The only way is to prepare, prepare and prepare more.
Public speaking is just a small example.
You need to prepare for life and do it everyday. Since life comes up with new challenges everyday and if you would like to face those confidently, you need to prepare every moment.
Another name for preparing for life is self-improvement or self-development. You may refer to How do You Improve Yourself?
If you are looking for a happy and fulfilling life, the excuses won’t work. Any ‘I cannot’ can be converted to ‘I can’ with this preparation and it is the only way to be confident in whatever you do.
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